Saturday, August 16, 2014

Special Note:

Mistress Barbara has been in charge of me for 43 years. We believe the key has less to do with the day to day dress, tasks, punishments, and rewards, but more to do with the elements in respect, love, liking each other, and communications. A FLR/FLM, or Dom/sub relationship does not have to be filled with mean, harsh, disrespectful treatment. Life changes all the time; meeting new friends in the life and unaware of the life, family events of all kinds, children, job changes and home relocations, family and friend deaths, good health and illness, vacations and over-work, all of which require some adjustment in how you manage your relationship. The conditions of life can change in an instant. Throughout all the changes your FLR/FLM can continue, but adjusts as necessary. With good communications, including humor, each of you can remain true and supportive of each other. Remember, as a sub cares for his/her Mistress/Dom, the Mistress/Dom also care for their subs. Throughout the years, you must also work to like each other, to want to be with each other, to care enough to give your very best to each other. It is likely your overt actions will change while you are raising children. subs may still wash; cook and clean wearing panties, but the apron may not be as frilly as it was without children (Mistress’s choice). When the kids leave the house, or are old enough to be encouraged or trained into the lifestyle, a new maid uniform might appear. If your lifestyle remains private while the children are home, the excitement on reinstatement day will be as much fun as it was 20 or more years ago. In long-term relationships health issues will present themselves. If sub has a heart attack at age 67, Mistress/Dom will have to care for sub. After years of respect, love, and good communications this should be within the normal flow of the relationship. In our case, Mistress Barbara has been sick for many years now. With visitors at home or when Mistress is in hospital, with my cage, and me in panties Mistress Barbara always tells people, "k finds a way to make Me smile everyday". We like being with each. We love each other. The day to day tasks have change, but Mistress Barbara is still in charge. i still make sure Her needs are met, but things are different. 

Our advise - work at keeping your relationship healthy - like each other, love each other, respect each other, and over time adjust everything as necessary. Do not worry, confront issues and make changes to stay fresh and in love.

10 comments:

  1. That is a beautiful post. Thanks you for sharing it.

    Congratulations on 43 years of FLM bliss. Did your relationship start out as a FLM from the beginning, or was there a period of vanilla prior?

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    1. While we were dating in high school we were not exceptionally sexual. However, Mistress Barbara (just Barbara at the time) did take the lead. Through college Barbara was still in charge, but we had a relatively normal college life. Life changed after we were married and living in Germany.

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  2. Thanks for a great post. What a beautiful love story you two have had, living this lifestyle while having an entire life together filled with family, ups and downs. I am sure you take great care of your Mistress when she is unwell and I am sure your dynamic gives her something to smile about.

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    1. We each provide the other with lots to smile and be happy about. We could live without the illness, but there is nothing to do but make the best of each day. There is no known timeline for Her, but we ahead by six years thus far. Some recent new has not been good, but we just might beat that news as well.

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  3. Dualpurpose - thank you for posting such a wonderful post and one so full of wise words and advice. It should be required reading on any FLR/Femdom curriculum. Wishing you both well and many more happy years together.

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  4. Thank you for your kind comments. We trust you are and will continue to enjoy a wonderful relationship.

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  5. Dualpurpose, I always look forward to your posts. I wish you well and Mistress Barbara strength to stay as strong as possible. Thank you for putting into perspective the keys to success for a WLM/FLR, D/s relationship. It's easy to get caught up in the little things and forget that there are certain core traits to a successful loving relationship which transcend vanilla or alternative lifestyle choices. You touched on all the 'biggies'. Thank you and continue to tell your story in future posts.

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  6. I wish you both well. I am sure the strength of your loving relationship will help you both bear up.

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    1. Thank you - we are keeping everything together.

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