Mistress Barbara has been in charge of me for 43 years. We believe the key has less to do with the day to day dress, tasks, punishments, and rewards, but more to do with the elements in respect, love, liking each other, and communications. A FLR/FLM, or Dom/sub relationship does not have to be filled with mean, harsh, disrespectful treatment. Life changes all the time; meeting new friends in the life and unaware of the life, family events of all kinds, children, job changes and home relocations, family and friend deaths, good health and illness, vacations and over-work, all of which require some adjustment in how you manage your relationship. The conditions of life can change in an instant. Throughout all the changes your FLR/FLM can continue, but adjusts as necessary. With good communications, including humor, each of you can remain true and supportive of each other. Remember, as a sub cares for his/her Mistress/Dom, the Mistress/Dom also care for their subs. Throughout the years, you must also work to like each other, to want to be with each other, to care enough to give your very best to each other. It is likely your overt actions will change while you are raising children. subs may still wash; cook and clean wearing panties, but the apron may not be as frilly as it was without children (Mistress’s choice). When the kids leave the house, or are old enough to be encouraged or trained into the lifestyle, a new maid uniform might appear. If your lifestyle remains private while the children are home, the excitement on reinstatement day will be as much fun as it was 20 or more years ago. In long-term relationships health issues will present themselves. If sub has a heart attack at age 67, Mistress/Dom will have to care for sub. After years of respect, love, and good communications this should be within the normal flow of the relationship. In our case, Mistress Barbara has been sick for many years now. With visitors at home or when Mistress is in hospital, with my cage, and me in panties Mistress Barbara always tells people, "k finds a way to make Me smile everyday". We like being with each. We love each other. The day to day tasks have change, but Mistress Barbara is still in charge. i still make sure Her needs are met, but things are different.
Our advise - work at keeping your relationship healthy - like each other, love each other, respect each other, and over time adjust everything as necessary. Do not worry, confront issues and make changes to stay fresh and in love.