If You have a new boyfriend or are a newlywed, and You have decided Your relationship is going to a female led relationship, then establishing Your position as quickly as possible if very valuable. You are the best judge of how that might take place, but here are a few options. When You have dated sufficiently to establish Your interest in continuing the relationship, You should state Your position and terms clearly, encouragingly, and firmly. In almost any form, the bottom line is; “if you want to continue a relationship with me, you need to recognize my leadership in our life together. Are you ready to follow my lead, do as I direct, fulfill My needs, and satisfy all My desires”? The words should be Yours, but the point is important. Alternatively, while dating, You should direct all activity both overtly and subtly. Remember, he can have or do anything You want. If he tries to tell You to do something You do not want to do, or to wear something You do not want to wear, You need to make it clear he has no right to require anything of you. If he does not understand no, then he need to pay a price; You do or wear what You want; You terminate the event; You stop talking to him; You deny him all sexual release; You tease him until he realizes his grave mistake and commit to doing as You say. You always have the means and the right to take full control of the relationship on Your terms.
If You are a newlywed and You have not obtained Your man’s commitment to Your leadership, I recommend You make that Your wedding night commitment. By wedding day, Your boy should know that You will run the household, and You will control the money. If You do not have him in panties, I recommend You give him a nicely wrapped gift package containing his wedding panties, with a nice note of encouragement, and the hint of consequences (good and bad), after the rehearsal dinner. Imagine the excitement You both can have when You meet him at the alter and whisper, “do you have your panties on?” If he says no, then You can tease him all day long. If he wants wedding night sex, he must wear his panties. The power is Yours.
Since I had not thought about this for our wedding day, I recommend You consider it now. I did make it happen on our first anniversary. Remember the old saying, “better late than never”.
The importance of this is establishing Your position of control early. Panties are an easy and excellent sign of his position and Your power. Panties become an initial sign and confirmation of what will become a set of rules. Men, particularly submissive men, do well with rules and limits. The first two rules You establish deal with 1) when he wears his panties (all the time, when at home, when not at work) and 2) from now on he sits to pee, whether he is wearing panties or not. These are simple and private rules. You and he are the only people who know. Well, You and who ever You decide to tell. In any case, the rules allow him time to get comfortable with his subservient position. At Your pace, for example monthly, You add something new to Your relationship.
If You are as lucky as I am, You will find Your boy looks good in panties, and stockings, and skirts, and dresses, and You will enjoy seeing him dressed. One day, Your man, Your boy, will soon be Your sissy. Your love and life will only get better.