Beyond the generalize answer of we (females) are natural and better leaders around the house and family, there are almost countless other good reasons to establish a female lead household. For our female readers who are all ready in charge, this article will contain information you already know. For those female readers considering taking charge, or recently took charge, I hope you find this supportive and helpful. For our male readers seeking to have their partners take charge of them, I hope this give you some help.
This is really about my reasons for taking charge, and based on my experiences. Individual cases may be similar or entirely different. The value of help is taking bits and pieces and making them work for you.
My Mom was in charge of our household. She did not extend her authority to all elements of our dad’s behavior, but she was clearly in charge. miss sissy kay’s Mom was also in charge of her household, but passed before I could gain Her confidence and experiences. In kay’s house, there were elements of spousal abuse, which certainly influenced kay’s willingness to surrender control to Me. Following my Mothers lead, I felt taking charge of my dates, boy friends, and husband was both natural and part of my early training.
Without doubt, I like having control, control of everything. My Sister and I were not allowed to be mean or selfish when we were growing up, therefore, my leadership style did not evolve as mean, self-centered, or selfish. However, my control and leadership style allow Me to convert Kenny to mr k to miss sissy kay, provide leadership to the entire family, and extend my leadership to my work. We did not establish our relationship overnight. For Me, and us, it took many years. Of course, we did not have the resources available today for assistance.
Today, females already run the majority of American household. The female manages almost all of the family decisions, activities, and money. Thus, for the majority of families, You only have to take greater, stronger, and complete control of Your resident male(s) behaviors. So ladies, seriously consider taking full control. You will enjoy the change. If Your man is a hard core alpha male, conversion will not be easy. You may have to deny him access to your body for a long time to get his attention. Fortunately for Me, I did not have to deal with that experience. When I was dating, any date with big hands demanding quick access to any part of Me, found the date cut short. I simply did not like such behavior, and would not tolerate it. I loved the idea of romance on a date. I love the concept of “I control access to my body”. I hope others with experience converting the alpha male character will add comments for Your assistance.
Is your household a two income family? Then you work as hard, or may be harder, than Your partner. So, when Your man thinks he is entitled to, or has earned the right to play golf with the boys, or go to a game with the guys when there are unfinished household chores to be done, he is wrong and his reality needs adjusting. You worked just as hard, You are just as stressed, and You are just as entitled to go play with the guys, or girls, as he is.
The baseline for our relationship came from this recognition. We both worked; we both worked hard; we both liked to rest and play; but I established the fundamental guideline that has worked for us; No rest, time-off, play events until all the household chores are complete. In the beginning, I helped with the household chores. At least I allow mr K to believe I was helping. I was actually teaching him how to do such tasks in My house. When we lived in apartments, cleaning, washing clothes, ironing, cooking, doing dishes, and completing our graduate school home work were the primary chores. mr k learned to get everything done during the week, so part or all of the weekend was available for events I approved. Until the first spanking event, describe in an earlier article, I teased and denied mr k to mold his behavior. I would vary My dress; shirt and jeans, his shirt and My short skirt (no bra and panties, or no panties), scrub top and panties, panties only, bra only, bra and panty hose. The different clothes associated sexy fun with chores. It was not hard to get mr k to vary his clothes as well. Quickly we eliminated his under pants in the house and on weekends. kay without under wear made it easy for Me to play with his “funny little thing”. The phrase I used to set his status below my great boobs and pussy. When we had fun doing our chores, I would tease him, compliment him, and then reward him with some sex. However, after about three months, the sex did not always include an orgasm for him. I always had an orgasm. Torment has its benefits. he learned that his pleasure required wearing sexier or less clothing, doing a larger share of chores, and satisfying Me more intensely. On My first wedding anniversary, I gave him his big reward, he own panties. By month ten kay was a good house maid on his way to becoming a sissy. I believe a good maid should have panties. Throughout the years, I have continued to help, instruct, and grant rewards, or punishments, for his chore performance. Before we had kids, mr k had become miss sissy kay. While the kids were growing up, all the family members referred to him as kay rather than Ken. Kay still wore panties under his unisex clothes at home, and always went to work in panties.
In My household, I established guidelines rather than rules. I felt guidelines implied an opportunity for discussion and contribution. There was only My way, but leaving kay with the feeling of input worked. Knowing Your house is always clean, chores are always finished, and You can play where and when You desire, is ample reason to take charge. Once we had kids, many of the guidelines, those dealing with general behavior, tasks, and expectations that apply to everyone in the house, become rules. Children deal better with fixed rules and expectations.
Once You decide You are taking full control, think about the best way to introduce Your goals and how You are going to institute the change. Create a plan and a timeline. Then talk to Your subject. If sex is involved, he will listen and participate in the conversation. If he has asked You to take control You can move quickly. If You just think he will accept Your full control, the discussion will be very important and sill set a great future for both of you.
Why should You take control? For Me, control allows Me to have a clear and positive impact on the lives and success of My family. Yes, that is a big picture concept. Some of the great benefits I have enjoyed over the years include: having a partner who love you; a partner who makes you happy all the time; a partner who has and expresses his opinions without demanding his opinion prevail, and now knowing in declining health My sissy will still do all he can to keep me comfortable.
There are also so very fun reasons I cannot under state. Seeing Your man cleaning the house in panties is great. Pulling your man by his cock anytime, anywhere, is very powerful. Knowing Your man is not going to show his panties or chastity devise to just any women is comforting. Telling Your man to wear a dress is fun. The invention of lycra, spandex and spanx has added greatly to our fun. Most men like looking at tight fitting clothes, and it is not hard to get them to wear such clothes. Helping Your man find and engage women or men with who both of You can play with is wonderful. Watching Your man suck his first cock is a great memory. Watching Your man present his pussy to You or anyone else You allow access does not get old. Knowing if You call Your man while he is driving the car telling him to pull his cock out of his panties, he will do it. If You enjoy sex, knowing You can have it where and when you want it just plain enjoyable.
For mss sissy kay and I, we have worked hard at our relationship. We know how to talk to each other. We have learned limits, respect, and are still very much in love with each. I think there are lots of very good reasons to establish a female lead relationship or marriage.